It's most rewarding not to sleep with men for money

• Published date: 15 January 2023
• Publication title: Nigeria - The Nation

Dear ma,

Sincerely your life inspires me so much ma. Whenever I see your articles and facebook posts, it inspires me so much and makes me believe I can become whatsoever i want to be in life without having to subject my life to negativities. My life almost crashed three days ago when a man who was a mentor and like a father to me wanted to force me into having sex with him. I am a Virgin-In-Great Lack! After he had a counseling session with me in his office, where he asked that I tell him about my life's struggles and dreams, he got interested in mentoring me, being like a father and supporting me to seeing that I fulfilled all my dreams.

I was happy because I thought God has sent a destiny helper my way. He was like a God-Send because he took it upon himself to bear most of my school's financial burdens and was working already towards helping me achieve my dream which was starting up my business again which got crashing after the Covid-19 lockdown in school. Because of how harmless he seemed to be, owing to the fact that he is married too, I couldn't help but tell my parents about the new help God sent my way. They were so happy about it….that the burden on them would be reduced.

I never knew that it was a disaster that was waiting to happen that I was mingling with. He asked to see me in his office to have things sorted out and all of a sudden he came up with sexual advances which came like a shock to me as he literally pounced on me. So this was the singular reason why he was all nice to me?

Even though I left unharmed I left heart broken because definitely he found me vulnerable that was why he could try doing that to me. While I was still thinking it was a mistake which he would correct,he sent me a message saying that until I succumb to his request, then I should expect no more support from him. He blocked me off his WhatsApp. Even though I never have plans to succumb either, I found the incident a quaking one.

I decided to tell this story of mine to you mum because I thought that with the support of an amazing personality like you, I would be able to bring my business plan into reality, without having to sell myself off to a man all in the name of help. I told it to a friend and she made it known to me clearly that most...